You Gotta Go Through

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You Gotta Go Through

Are you facing a situation in your career that you
thought you’d never face? Working in a job that you
are overqualified for? Reporting to a boss that
doesn’t get or like you? Unemployed after years of
hard work? Interviewing endlessly when in the past
jobs came to you?

Do you feel like you have done all the right things,
worked hard and given it your all, but now the right
things are not happening for you?

Your career spans 30, 40, 50 or more years, so sooner
or later, you will face a tough situation in your
career. Some difficulties in your career are easier to
tackle. A fight with a co-worker can end with a
discussion to resolve it. Having to travel to another
country on a moment’s notice can work if your spouse
can jump in and help. But what happens when you are
faced with something that you have no experience
fixing?

You Go Through. How? Follow These Four Steps Below.

1. Don’t Run Or Hide

Wouldn’t it be easier if difficulties went away on
their own? Yes, but it’s not probably going to happen
that way. When things are tough, you have to get tough
too. It’s ok if you want to take some time to regroup
and assess your situation, but don’t expect your
problems to have disappeared while you were
regrouping. The longer you run or hide from your
problems, the longer they will hang around, and the
bigger they will become. No one wants problems, but
sometimes you have them. Trust that you can handle
whatever has been put in front of you. Trust that you
will find a way to overcome your situation. Trust that
you have the knowledge and the strength to be
successful. Your pathway to the other side will appear
once you plow ahead.

2. Be Open To Different Possibilities

Sometimes we have a picture in our mind of what should
happen, and while we focus on that, we miss out on
what’s supposed to happen. Believe you should not have
been fired? Maybe you are right, but that doesn’t
matter because you are still out of work. What can you
do now to get back on your feet? Not happy about being
underutilized at work? How can you prove yourself
again? Frustrated that your contacts can’t help you
find a new position? Who can become your new friends?
When difficulties occur, we want to go back to the way
things were. But that way, many times, no longer
exists. Create the next phase of your career. Be open
to the possibilities that lie ahead, whatever they may
be.

3. Ask For Help

Why we do dislike asking for help so much? Are we
worried that we will look weak? Are we concerned that
we might be a pest? Are we afraid of hearing the word
‘no’? Probably, all of the above. We are a society of
lone rangers that prefers to tackle problems on our
own. The trouble is that solving problems takes longer
when you are trying to solve them alone. There are
times in your career when you will need assistance.
That’s ok. Maybe another perspective or insight is
what you need to get you moving in a new direction.
Asking for help is a sign of strength because you are
recognizing that help from others will help you get
where you want to go faster.

4. Expect To Succeed

Your expectations play a big role in how quickly you
are able to work through your difficulties. Solutions
are found once you expect to find one. If you expect
that you will find an answer, you will. Success is
yours if you go through your problems rather than
around them. Your reward for being optimistic and
persistent is your problems will disappear, and this
means your old confident self can come back. Expect
victory and you will get it.

So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so
it might as well be a life you love!